“Do military wives look down on civilians?” That was a search that led someone to my blog the other day. When I saw that, my heart dropped to my feet. First of all, I’m praying that this blog helped to reassure whoever it was that no, we do not! We love our civilian wife friends as much as we love our military wife friends. Second, it hurts and worries me that there’s even that stigma.
I’ll be the first to admit that there are a very, very small percentage that probably do look down on civilians. We go through things that are pretty unrelatable. Our husbands leaving is not like they’re going on a business trip. They’re going to get shot at, and to see things that no human should ever have to see. That said, we made our choices. We chose to live this life, we chose to support our spouse, and we chose to be left behind to wait for them to come home. I wrote in another post about things that civilians should know about military wives. I hope and pray that whoever was searching for that phrase saw the post and understood what I meant about military wives and civilians. (If not, and you’re still around, PLEASE contact me! I would love to chat!)
I know for me, one of my best friends in Washington was a civilian. She’s married to a children’s-book-illustrator-turned-dental-student (can you get more opposite from the military?), mother of three adorable boys and the cutest little girl, and was one of the people who helped me to keep my sanity while Ryan was off flying. Em and Brandon didn’t know much about the pilot world, but that didn’t matter. They gave me a break from being alone in the house, a distraction from worrying about my sweetheart, and friends to talk to. They also gave me a break from the military. I was able to just be Caitlin at their house. We were always happy to talk about any questions they had or update them on what’s going on overseas with Ryan, but they also let me forget that I was a military wife, and just let me be the neighbor across the street. I don’t think they’ll ever know how much that meant, but I hope in some small way, we were able to give the a piece of the joy and comfort they gave us.
The point of all of that was, when someone asks “do military wives look down on civilians?” the answer is no, we absolutely, unequivocally do not look down on civilians. We love y’all, too!